The abuse began at about age 8 or so. My mother, the abuser created for me a mythical figure.. Cute kid with curly blonde hair and lots of personality. Outgoing and friendly kid and did not know at the time this was all encouraged by my mother and her unmarried sisters. Is it possible to have more then one surrogate parent? In my case, answer is yes. I grew up feeling a sense of power and privilege .. I used that power to intimidate others and became a kind of dreaded kid in the classroom.